Gay-at-home mom: Easing out of year one

by Aimee Genter-Gilmore, PQ Monthly


This is what one year of life looks like.


My, oh my… how time truly flies. Oscar has rounded the corner on his 11th month, and is only a handful of days away from the big one. In the past year, I’ve battled postpartum depression, lost my job, transitioned to a stay-at-home mom, got married, and fell in love with a kid in a way I didn’t even know was possible. In the past year, Oscar has been born, learned how to breathe, and see, and hear, and touch things, and make noises, and, well… you get it. Oscar’s last year has been a lot more work than mine. It’s always nice to put things into perspective.

Unfortunately, the world seems restless and hostile these days. As I have had a huge priority shift, oh… a little over eleven months ago, I have updated my purpose in life… making sure my kid isn’t an a-hole. With that in mind, here are some lessons I hope I am able to teach to Oscar Rocket:

  1. Every person on the planet is a human being. Every single person deserves respect. Conversely, it is never OK to be an a-hole just because someone else is an a-hole.
  2. Human beings are flawed and imperfect. It is our imperfections that make us unique. If we didn’t have those imperfections, we would be identical polite androids, and where’s the fun in that?
  3. All parenting cliches are true, including “you’ll thank me when you’re older,” “kids grow so fast,” and “in my day, people listened to music, not garbage.”
  4. Forgiveness doesn’t hurt anyone. (Just don’t be a dick about it.)
  5. Treat others the way that you would like to be treated. It is also a cliche, but it has never led me astray.
  6. Never be afraid to ask questions.
  7. Never be afraid to dream.
  8. Sometimes you need to make hard decisions. Sometimes you have to be the a-hole. But please try to keep that to a minimum.

Do you have any advice for Oscar on the eve of his first birthday? Leave it in the comments!