February 2013 Issue

 

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Breathing the same air

Melanie Davis (left) with her life and business partner, Gabriela Kandziora.
Melanie Davis (left) with her life and business partner, Gabriela Kandziora.

I grew up in a fish bowl. Exposed to the eyes of the public before I even had two digits in my age, I headed out on the campaign trail with my grandmother as she headed toward becoming the first Latina to hold executive office in our nation as secretary of state for New Mexico. Early on, I knew life was different at home, growing up a tomboy on the wrong side of El Burque (Albuquerque, New Mexico). My neighborhood and school juxtaposed strikingly with the life I saw my grandmother living out in Santa Fe when I served as a senatorial page, but in both places I saw people like me creating real, lasting change in the lives of others. However, I saw no place for a tomboy like me, one full of confusing feelings and questions, be it in El Burque or Santa Fe.
I eventually did what I thought I was supposed to do: burned my way through school, worked hard, and got married to a man who used to be fond of saying that if he and I were to ever get a divorce — which we did when I was only 25 — I would end up with a woman. I came to realize that in my own frenzy of doing what I felt was expected of me as a daughter, a woman, and a Latina, that I had never really seen myself. It was perfectly clear: my ex was right. Continue reading…

 

News & Community

News briefs

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Oregon United for Marriage kicks off initiative campaign

Multnomah County sees dramatic increase in syphilis infections

Lawsuit settlement leads to trans-inclusive healthcare for Oregon state employees

PFLAG Portland Black Chapter celebrates four years of community and activism

The state of race: LGBTQ community leaders weigh in

Fostering a family: Another new normal

A look back at year one

Get Out! Calendar

Arts & Culture

Art Briefs

God Des and She deliver a queer state of the union

Ritual Arts revels in the magic in body modification

Wedding Special

Nine months to your dream wedding: A planning checklist

You and me and an officiant makes three

Perspectives

ID Check, by Leela Ginelle

LGBTQ Legal Outlook, by Mark Johnson Roberts

Ponderlust, by Erin Rook

Everything is Connected, by Nick Mattos

The Lady Chronicles, by Daniel Borgen

Cultivating Life, by LeAnn Locher

Eat, Drink, and Be Mary, by Brock Daniels

The Fun Stuff

Whiskey & Sympathy, by Sophia St. James and Gula Delgatto

Queer Aperture Q&A

Astroscopes with Miss Renee